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19 April 2013 at 15:24
Great post girl! Really liked that you talked about this! I was heavier at some point in my life and with great sadness I can say that I have experienced bullying. Maybe not that intense, but i still did. Love everything you wrote :) x x
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19 April 2013 at 15:39
Everyone has their own insecurities. It's the confidence in that person that matters. Samantha Brick is a vile human being and what she writes is so disgusting and shocking that they only way you can comprehend it is to think that it is a joke. I saw her on a programme talking about Down Syndrome and she said that people with DS are a drain on the economy.
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Comments about being thin, slim, fat, chubby won't ever stop. I thought it would when I got pregnant but yesterday someone said to me "oh wow, you are big for 18 weeks pregnant. My friend is 6 months pregnant and she is the same size as you!". It's about expectations, how they feel about themselves and their own issues. That was her opinion but it doesn't mean she is right.
It affected me for the rest of the day and today actually.
Sorry, waffled away a bit there.
We need to start loving ourselves. We are all trying our best to be who we want to be.
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19 April 2013 at 15:42
An amazing post meg. Big or small were all just human.
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19 April 2013 at 15:54
I have been thinking the exact same for a while now, everybody has their own opinion nobody has the right to say who and who can't speak.
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19 April 2013 at 15:59
I had a conversation with my mum about this the other day and I've the same exact opinion as you. I'm really thin too because I've a fast metabolism and I'm a very nervous person. I've been insecure about my body for as long as I can remember because firstly I don't like to be this thin and secondly I've been bullied in secondary school for being "skinny". People used to ask me if I was anorexic or if it happened to me to eat sometimes... Like WHAT?
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Telling someone they're anormally skinny is as hurtful as telling someone they're fat... Not alot of people can actually understand this unfortunately.
Thanks for this amazing post by the way! I hope it will spread the word!
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19 April 2013 at 16:01
I saw the same article yesterday and it honestly sickened me. I feel quite sorry for her thinking that having a slim figure is the only way to succeed in life! And I totally agree, isn't saying 'you should eat more' to a thinner person essentially the same as saying 'eat less' to a bigger person? So rude! xo
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19 April 2013 at 16:02
Wow, you so put into words what I was thinking when I read that feckin ridiculous article by Ms Brick! (what a moron)....
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I was awfully skinny throughout school and for a good few years after and it was awful. I completely understand where you are coming from.
When I hit about 21/22 I started to (finally!) put on weight...my hips got bigger, my bum got bigger and so did my boobs. It felt like it was a long time coming but what's awful about it was that people then felt like they could then say to me 'oooh you've put on some weight' and the worst one: 'you've let yourself go a bit haven't you?'. It was like I had actually let people down.
The past two or so years I have struggled with my weight because of other people's opinions and projections about what is 'acceptable' for ME to weigh. As if it is anyone's business!! No-one cared that I actually felt better with a bit of weight on my hips or that I liked my body.
You know what taught me to love my body? Yoga, learning to love myself (not just my body) and some awesome life coaching sessions.
If people have an opinion on my weight? Don't care, I don't let it in. I have an invisible barrier that protects me from that bullshit and all that gets in are the opinions of the people worthy and trusting to have an opinion. Boyfriends, family etc...
I know this was a super long comment, but I just wanted you to know that you aren't alone and that all that matters in the end is the opinion you have of yourself :)
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19 April 2013 at 16:07
just over a year ago one of my best friends lost her life because of her battle with anorexia nervosa so any kinda weight thing strikes a chord with me...
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i just don't understand why weight is ever an issue and why people feel the need to a)comment on it and b)use the size of a person as judgement rather than personality.
and for that samantha brick malarky... she angers me. on every level. which i'm guessing is her aim. she wants to evoke emotion and get attention.
it was nice to read your experiences though; i think tbh too many girls think it's a compliment to hear 'ur looking skinny' (i hate the S word too) and oh god i'm gonna stop myself there cos obviously knowing about how eating disorders can start and stuff i just want to shake those girls and say 'weight DOES NOT matter!!!!'
fab post lovely
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19 April 2013 at 16:08
That article simultaneously disgusted me and also made me very concerned for her disordered eating.
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I love this piece and agree with you completely. Being a slim build myself I've heard a lot of this and have had rude comments on my blog about my weight. The thing that also annoys me is the term "real women" which tends to cut out people with slim figures!
Great post
Lauren from Lauren Loves xxx
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19 April 2013 at 16:48
Oh my goodness I am so glad somebody finally wrote this! I am 14 and am 5'8", a size 8, have a B cup and have 34 inch legs. When I write it down like that it might sound great to you, but to me it just means that I can't feel like I have a "Fat Day" if I feel bloated or am not allowed to hit the "fat burn" button on an exercise machine in our school gym without at least 5 girls saying something. Some of my friends are curvier and I wish I had a slightly curvier figure instead of being straight up and down like a boy, yet I am never allowed to have an opinion about weight things. I went shopping with some friends and tried on a top but didn't buy it and when they asked why I didn't buy it I said because I felt it was too tight, to which I got the reply of "Shut up, you can't even say that because you're skinny". It's really not fun, and I am glad that other people have noticed the same things :)x
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19 April 2013 at 17:04
So glad that you've addressed this issue.
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I hate being called skinny - I don't find it complimenting in any way.
I also have larger friends who I have never EVER called 'fat', because I also find that word disgusting.
What's most important in terms of a woman's figure is being healthy and happy.
Much love,
Jennifer x
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19 April 2013 at 17:12
Awesome article! When I was 18 I was very thin and people constantly called me "skinny Minny", told me to eat more, asked if I was bulimic. Once I got into my twenties I put on a bit of weight--enough to get curvy, mind you, not fat--but then all of a sudden it's comments about my "big butt" and "are you sure you're not preggers?". Which led me to crash diet and get very skinny again (the unhealthy way) and hear..."gosh, you're so thin, don't you eat?"
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FACEPALM.
Luckily years on later I've finally come to a place where I'm comfortable with my body, and I am not going to crash diet nor stuff my bra to make someone else happy. I am so tired of all this talk about what a "real woman" looks like! It's unfair and unkind. Real women come in all shapes and sizes. We need to stop picking each other apart and celebrate the fact that we're all unique!!
This is such an important subject I'm so glad you've had the guys to write about it! I'm getting really sick of all the 'skinny' hate, especially as if it was the other way around there would be outrage!
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Thank you Sarah. Skinny hate - I like it :) (not the hate, the term haha). You're completely right, people can be very insensitive. xxx
Had to read this post straight away. I've had it from both sides. I didn't start my periods until I was 19. 19!! I had no boobs until I was about 21. I swam competitively when I was younger so that didn't help the boy shape I had. Now I'm in my late twenties and have curves I'm still not happy. So for someone to say 'you don't have an opinion because you're thin, therefore you must be happy' is ignorant and totally insensitive!
ReplyI hope you can take these comments on the chin (I'm sure you can), but I am really glad you posted this!
Jen | sunny sweet pea xx
Jen, thank you for reading, and for your comment! I can imagine that was very difficult, but good on you for swimming and sticking to something you loved. I used to do Ballet and gave it up because I was bullied, so I admire you for that!
I've been taking them on the chin all my life so far - I'm sure I can absorb another one or two :)
Thanks again, xxx
I read that article yesterday and the further I got down the page the more I wanted to just close it. What a load of garbage! Online things like that are the reason why so many people struggle with weight issues.
ReplyIt's shocking to think some people think that because you're slim you have no right to an opinion. As I said in a tweet, whether you're big, small, tall or short everyone is entitled to an opinion on a topic.
There is a story behind everyone I believe, it's unfair to judge from the outside look alone.
Great Post Meg and I hope you're feeling better now.
Amy xx
A Little Boat Sailing
Thank you Amy, she really is disgusting and I hope the Daily Mail soon see she is doing damage, as well as filling their pockets! xx
I absolutely understand everything you have written down. I am 12, and yes my growth spurt has yet to come, but I am small like you! My whole family is, and nobody understands! When I was at my last school, the dinner ladies used to watch over me just because I was thin. I would eat more than most, but they would never understand what was the real reason. GENETICS. I've also been called anorexic before, even behind my back, and it really does hurt. I think people need to understand that we are who we are, because we made like it? Obviously some of us eat way more than we should do, and some way less, but as long as you know the real reason to why you are your size that is what matters.
ReplyReally great post, and it makes me feel good that other people have gone/going through the same thing :-) xxx Tolly xxx
Hi Tolly, thank you for your comment :) I'm glad you can find a little comfort in this post - I wish I had had that when I was your age. Just continue with the attitude you currently have and you will be fine, they'll be the ones regretting it in the long run. Just look at how amazing and successful you already are at 12! It's crazy, and I truly admire you xxx